Kristin Warnaca, Wilder Intimacy Coaching

An initiation into wholeness

About

Are you feeling the quiet ache for more? Whether you’ve done years of inner work or are just beginning to ask the deeper questions...

This is your invitation to initiation.
Maybe you’ve never talked about desire out loud. Maybe you’ve kept parts of yourself hidden, not knowing where to begin. This call is a sacred starting point. A heartfelt, soulful conversation to name what you long for, release the shame that was never yours, and explore a new path forward—with a mentor & coach who sees your wholeness, honors your timing, and walks beside you as you begin to reclaim the love life your soul has always known was possible. Embrace the starting line.

Or maybe... you’ve done a lot of work.
Inner child meditations
Somatic therapy
Shadow work, goal chasing, women's circles, men's retreats, grief rituals, breathwork & sound baths...
Your vision board is a masterpiece and your morning routine is a effortless.
Your bookshelf could get someone certified.
Your heart is open—but your hips? Still a little guarded.

Because whether you've done a LOT of work, or are just beginning... until now, no one ever showed you how to be spiritual AND sexual:
 How to be sacred and a little filthy.
 How to claim your “too muchness” as holy.
 How to want what you want without shame—and actually enjoy it.
 
How to tell the truth and hear the truth and live in truth, all the time, about everything.

If this is you, WELCOME.

This work is for you if you're:
  • Longing to feel safe being fully expressed—sexually, emotionally, spiritually
  • Tender from a breakup, betrayal, or a love that never fully saw you
  • Exploring ethical non-monogamy or kink but bumping into old stories, shame, or confusion
  • Awakening spiritually and realizing your current relationships no longer fit
  • Reclaiming your body and voice after trauma, conditioning, or religious programming
  • Torn between the life you built and the life your soul is begging you to live
  • Hungry for more turn-on, more truth, more trust—with yourself and with others

Whatever is rising, whatever is present… you’re not too much. 
You’re not broken. 
You’re becoming.

Reassurance
If reading this stirs up nerves, tenderness, or even resistance—that’s okay. Your nervous system is protecting something sacred. We live in a society where talking about these kinds of desires is taboo. You don’t have to rush, perform, or have it all figured out. Nothing you can say or share will shock or offend me: I've pretty much seen and heard I all. Every part of you is welcome, including the hesitant and unsure.

I promise to move at the pace of your slowest part, with reverence and care. This is a space where your no is just as holy as your yes, and everything you bring is welcome. You will be met with softness, safety, and zero pressure—just presence, truth, and the beginning of something real.

Whether you're...
  • Wondering how to want sex again (or differently)
  • In a liminal, tender space: burying an old version of your relationship and desiring to conceive something new within your current partnership
  • Exploring sacred kink or opening up your relationship
  • Peeling back the last sticky layers of sexual shame
  • Longing to be naked and unashamed—with a partner, and with yourself
  • Or secretly asking… what if there's more?

(Spoiler alert: there IS more!!! And you don’t have to do it alone.)

Meet your Guide
I’m Kristin Warnaca—Pleasure maven. Accidental rebel. Worshipful heretic. Holy freak. Mirror of truth.

I’ve walked through the fire of childhood sexual abuse, purity culture, and soul-sucking marriages. I’ve survived sexual assault, rebuilt my life after trauma, and found healing through pleasure, power, and deep, embodied love. After surviving a religious cult upbringing, divorce, complex PTSD, brain injury, and abuse… I created a life of real joy. Real love. Real peace. I live what I teach. 

I didn’t ‘find it’ — and I wasn’t ‘lucky.’ I BECAME IT. I healed through pleasure, intention, and deep soul & cellular-level rewiring. I curated the ME that was able to WALK INTO love, eyes wide open, and continues to curate and nurture love as ongoing action, embodiment, and devotion.

Today, I live in a thriving marriage 2.0 with my husband (the Warrior Sage Love of my Life) and our blended family of three teenage children. I am a published author; my personal stories have been featured in three books, including the international bestseller, “Oola for Women” and the upcoming "Awakening Your Eros" (publication date March 2026).

I hold sacred space for others to reclaim everything they were told to suppress as a living permission slip and transmission of unconditional love.

I’ve spent the last 16 years walking with humans through their most vulnerable, ecstatic, messy, and magnificent moments—supporting them as they awaken, unravel, and rebuild from the inside out. 

With over 11,000 hours of coaching, 7 certifications, and a background as a birth doula (500+ births!), I bring trauma-informed care, embodied reverence, and radical permission into every space I hold. 

I’m not here to fix you or rescue you. 

I’m here to walk beside you as you remember who you are— to equip you with tools, skills, and transmissions of new ways of BEING in the world: unapologetically, erotically, soulfully WHOLE.

Before we go any further…
This isn’t a casual fling or a quick fix.
It is a sacred threshold.
This work isn’t polite — it’s Holy.

Healing doesn't have to be hard or heavy. Expansion is an evolutionary process.The work is deep, but the experience is DELICIOUS. I consciously design our work together to be safe, sweet, playful, and delightful.

My 1:1 work is intimate, customized, and intentionally spacious—which means spots are limited, the work is deep and profound, and yes… there is often a waiting list. I work with just 12 clients/quarter.

I choose my clients with deep care and discernment, because this work isn’t surface-level—it’s soul-level. This call helps us feel into the fit, and see what kind of magic we might create together.

Booking a Discovery Call NOW is the very first step. This is how we begin weaving the vision of your love life of the future—the one your spirit craves. This is where you name your desires, reclaim your truth, and start creating the kind of love, intimacy, and liberation you know you were made for.

This can be the Turning Point:
This is your space and time to explore the tender truth of your inner longings—and begin becoming the version of you who fully lives it. 

You can become:
  • The one who trusts inner desire
  • Who walks with boundaries and grace
  • Who knows love is sacred
  • Who doesn’t apologize for wanting it all

My Clients Have...
  • Gone from frozen to feral. From fawning to fierce
  • Reclaimed their voice, their bodies, and their desires
  • Learned to say no without guilt, and yes with their whole damn being
  • Gone from “I think I want more…” to “Holy f*ck, this is my life?!”

If your ‘Promised Land’ (point B) looks like
  • Feeling safe in your skin
  • Trusting your YES and honoring your sacred NO
  • Being fully seen, held, and worshipped in your truth
  • Deeper intimacy without abandoning yourself
  • Healing that honors your trauma and your turn-on
  • Erotic liberation that feels soul-aligned
  • Conscious love that meets your depth, devotion, and fire
  • Living a life that turns you on—not just gets you by…

This is your invitation to take the first step of inquiry. If something deep inside you is whispering “YES”  then the shift has already begun.

Book Your Discovery Call
This isn’t a funnel or a sales pitch. 
It’s a sacred, heartfelt conversation. A sanctuary to breathe, to be met, and to begin imagining what’s possible. 

If your body is leaning in and your heart is whispering with hope: ‘finally… this! YES!’ If the quiet ache of your bones crave this path and your heart is ready, even if your mind is a little enervated (nervous & excited) or just plain freaking out, trust your body more than your brain. Let the deep longing of your soul lead you forward.

This is where your next chapter begins. Your future self is already smiling. 
I can’t wait to meet you! 

Packages

Discovery Call (for couples)

Some people love salted caramel and dark chocolate. For others Swedish Fish and Skittles are their thing (nothing wrong with either). Let’s find out if I’m your flavor and you’re mine with a complimentary "Passionate Possibilities" consultation! 

You will receive a follow-up email with an intake survey; please fill it out as thoroughly as possible in advance of our call (I choose my clients carefully).
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Professional Networking, Collaboration & Speaking Invitations

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Testimonials

While I would have never described our 20 year-marriage as in danger per se, there were deep rooted issues. I was apprehensive about getting help with such a personal issue, but Kristin honored our values without ever making us feel wrong about what we believe in or what we desired; an impressive balance.

Food, rent, and working with Kristin...these are NO BRAINERS.

- Daniel

After working with Kristin, something as simple as holding hands was different. We are more aware of and able to meet each other's specific needs. It got us thinking and talking to each other differently about our relationship, our conversations and the way that we can turn each other on. This is life-changing work!

- Toby & Gwen

Kristin has an uncanny ability to ask clarifying questions that cut to the quick and pierce directly to the heart of the matter at hand. She does so with a grace and gentleness that will set you at ease as you do the hard work of digging deep to unearth underlying issues to move past roadblocks, setting you on a path to breakthrough. I'm so grateful for the time I spent with Kristin as my coach!

- Louise

"I can't say enough good things about Kristin. I have decades of experience with traditional counseling and therapy. Kristin's approach is a refreshing change. She has an amazing ability to connect at a deep level, uncover core wounds, and facilitate a healing journey. One session feels like years of therapy. Kristin is an amazing resource for anyone seeking healing, coaching, and guidance through life's most intimate moments. A truly important investment."

- Eric Molletta

"Do you want to feel more joy in your life? That is what you need to ask yourself if you're considering coaching with Kristin. Kristin is an intuitive guide and bridge to love that leads you back to yourself for inner healing so it is possible to hold more joy. She effortlessly creates a safe container for you to identify self-limiting behaviors, then offers many tools from a vast array of modalities, including deep guided hypnosis meditations, partner conversation templates, and playful storytelling with shibari rope to discover & unwind unconscious attachment patterns. Her work expedites the healing process for limiting patterns to evolve without getting stuck in a talking-about-it-loop! Kristin helps you reconnect your body, mind, and spirit and brings coherence to what has felt deeply confusing for so long. Kristin's work elevated me out of repetitive narrative loops that many years of traditional talk therapy could not break. The result of working with Kristin is a sense of lightness with a new awareness so we can show up better for ourselves and our partners."

- Jacob Holt

"Miss Wordsmith Supreme Kristin just spun a brilliant dating profile for me that I KNOW will be a powerful manifesting net for the partner I desire. She not only helped me drill down on my true needs and dealbreaker, but was also able to skillfully describe me in a way that will attract men in alignment with my desires.

Kristin encourages you to dream BIG when it comes to partnership, leaving you feeling inspired and full of hope. I'm experiencing sexual and sensual expansiveness in my whole being. Co-crafting this profile with Kristin was the most fun I've had in a long time!

- Lora

✨ Life changing. ✨ Those are the two best words to describe my coaching experience with Kristin, and I know it might seem like an overstatement (or too good to be true), but this woman is MAGICAL! In only three sessions she’s ignited my creativity, enhanced my self-love and self-acceptance, helped me understand my blocks (and transform them into helpful allies), and my romantic relationship has been reborn. I’ve done a lot of therapy and healing work over the years but hands-down this is the best experience I’ve ever had. She’s such a match for me, and I’m so grateful she’s here in Bend!

- Dr. Brianne Grogan

Frequently Asked Questions

Do you offer virtual video coaching worldwide?
YES! I have clients all over the globe: currently in Israel, Egypt, India, South Africa, Canada and the United States. I have done virtual video coaching for 8 years, and the quality of connection and client results are just as effective through video as they are in person.
Can we meet in person?
YES! I have office space in Bend, Oregon where I see clients 3 days a week. I do Zoom sessions virtually worldwide from my home office on other days. Clients are also welcome to fly in for a VIP weekend retreat, or you can fly me to you! 

Please note: ALL initial consultations are done by Zoom or telephone.
Do you offer hands-on touch?
No. 
I do not participate in any erotic or sexual way with clients and do not offer hands-on touch. All client sessions are fully clothed, and I do not watch my clients engaging sexually with partners or in self pleasure. If you are looking for sexological bodywork, somatic stress release, scar tissue remediation, or a professional Dominatrix, I can refer you to professionals who include these services in their scope of practice.
Can I work with you on other intimacy/dating/relationship topics?
Yes, absolutely. I have other coaching certifications, credentials and experience, and enjoy switching gears when it's the right fit! Please book a Discovery Call Consultation so I can understand the type of support you're looking for, and we see if I might be able to help. If I feel your needs are outside of my scope of practice, I will be happy to refer you to other expert professionals who may be a better fit.
Can I do this work if I am single, celibate, or have never had a partner?
Absolutely, YES! It is wonderful to discover who we are as erotic beings while single. You can do this work while being completely celibate or even if you have never had a sexual partner. Being erotically alive and connected has nothing to do with being in a relationship with a partner or lover. We believe each individual sets their own table for sexual satisfaction, whether single or in a partnership. You can have sexual satisfaction in solo practice. You can tune your erotic instrument and play yourself into a lather of ecstatic delights: you are your own lifetime lover. 

And if you are seeking to be in a relationship in the future, learning what turns you on will set you up to get your needs met when you do attract that amazing new lover. Mastering the skills of feeding each Erotic Blueprint Type™ will turn you into a Sexy Superhero. You can confidently enter into erotic play with a new lover(s), be certain to get your needs met and blow them away with your otherworldly ability to feed their deepest desires. In fact, the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ coaching program is some of the best preparation to attract your ideal lover and craft a relationship with irresistible magnetic attraction for a lifetime.
Do you work with individuals who are partnered but need to do this work solo?
Yes! I work with individuals, partnered people, and singles. When in partnership, both parties are not required to participate in coaching in order to make significant changes in a relationship; I do support people who are partnered who wish or need to do the work individually.
I am religious/spiritual/formerly religious. Will you coach me with respect to my views and beliefs?
Yes, absolutely. I tailor my coaching to honor your traditions and ethics. My clients have included Orthodox Jews, Latter-Day Saints, Christians, Catholics and Muslims, as well as ex-vangelicals, people healing from purity culture, in the midst of spiritual deconstruction, Shamans, Shamanistas and Pagans, as well as people with no spiritual or religious practices or background. I have a deep reverence and love for spiritual and sacred sexuality and adapt my coaching according to their personal beliefs and honor their traditions and practices (for example, syncing sessions and couples homeplay practices with my client's menstrual cycles).
Does your expertise include Kink, BDSM, Ethical Non-Monogamy, & LGBTQIA+ coaching?
Yes, yes, and yes!! I support people in all relationship configurations and all orientations and genders, from vfully celibate and waiting for marriage virgins to long-term monogamous couples and have coaching expertise in ENM and open relating: from 'monogamish' to polyamory and relationship anarchy - I've got you covered!

I am an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, and certified in Sexual Orientation, Identity, Gender & Expression through Embody Emerge.

I am also a proud member of the Kink & BDSM communities, with both lifestyle and professional expertise, and completing a 700-hour training in psychological Domination and am the founder of Devotional Kink.
How do I get started with you?
Please book a 'Passionate Possibilities' Discovery call; I choose my clients carefully and want to make sure we're an amazing fit. We will identify your desires, challenges, and goals, and if we're a great fit, we'll move forward with a signed coaching agreement, you'll make your initial deposit, and schedule your sessions.
Do you use licensed or proprietary systems in your work?
No. While I'm deeply informed by the psychological study of eroticism and desire, my work does not use proprietary systems or licensed methodologies. 

I focus on helping people understand the underlying dynamics of desire, while integrating modern somatic and trauma-aware:
  • Nervous system regulation
  • Relational choice, consent, and attunement
  • Spiritual and erotic integration over performance
  • Capacity, pacing, and embodied truth across seasons of life

This work is not a substitute for, extension of, or endorsement of Erotic Blueprints™ coaching. Wilder Intimacy is not affiliated with, endorsed by, or representative of the Erotic Blueprints brand. 

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