Kristin Warnaca, Wilder Intimacy

An initiation into wholeness

About

Meet your Guide
I’m Kristin Warnaca. 

Pleasure maven. Worshipful heretic. Holy freak. Mirror of truth. Living permission slip and transmission of unconditional love.

I hold sacred and transformational space for others to reclaim what they were taught to suppress.

Packages

Discovery Call (for couples)

Some people love salted caramel and dark chocolate. For others Swedish Fish and Skittles are their thing (nothing wrong with either). Let’s find out if I’m your flavor and you’re mine with a complimentary "Passionate Possibilities" consultation! 

You will receive a follow-up email with an intake survey; please fill it out as thoroughly as possible in advance of our call (I choose my clients carefully).
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Testimonials

While I would have never described our 20 year-marriage as in danger per se, there were deep rooted issues. I was apprehensive about getting help with such a personal issue, but Kristin honored our values without ever making us feel wrong about what we believe in or what we desired; an impressive balance.

Food, rent, and working with Kristin...these are NO BRAINERS.

- Daniel

After working with Kristin, something as simple as holding hands was different. We are more aware of and able to meet each other's specific needs. It got us thinking and talking to each other differently about our relationship, our conversations and the way that we can turn each other on. This is life-changing work!

- Toby & Gwen

Kristin has an uncanny ability to ask clarifying questions that cut to the quick and pierce directly to the heart of the matter at hand. She does so with a grace and gentleness that will set you at ease as you do the hard work of digging deep to unearth underlying issues to move past roadblocks, setting you on a path to breakthrough. I'm so grateful for the time I spent with Kristin as my coach!

- Louise

"I can't say enough good things about Kristin. I have decades of experience with traditional counseling and therapy. Kristin's approach is a refreshing change. She has an amazing ability to connect at a deep level, uncover core wounds, and facilitate a healing journey. One session feels like years of therapy. Kristin is an amazing resource for anyone seeking healing, coaching, and guidance through life's most intimate moments. A truly important investment."

- Eric Molletta

"Do you want to feel more joy in your life? That is what you need to ask yourself if you're considering coaching with Kristin. Kristin is an intuitive guide and bridge to love that leads you back to yourself for inner healing so it is possible to hold more joy. She effortlessly creates a safe container for you to identify self-limiting behaviors, then offers many tools from a vast array of modalities, including deep guided hypnosis meditations, partner conversation templates, and playful storytelling with shibari rope to discover & unwind unconscious attachment patterns. Her work expedites the healing process for limiting patterns to evolve without getting stuck in a talking-about-it-loop! Kristin helps you reconnect your body, mind, and spirit and brings coherence to what has felt deeply confusing for so long. Kristin's work elevated me out of repetitive narrative loops that many years of traditional talk therapy could not break. The result of working with Kristin is a sense of lightness with a new awareness so we can show up better for ourselves and our partners."

- Jacob Holt

"Miss Wordsmith Supreme Kristin just spun a brilliant dating profile for me that I KNOW will be a powerful manifesting net for the partner I desire. She not only helped me drill down on my true needs and dealbreaker, but was also able to skillfully describe me in a way that will attract men in alignment with my desires.

Kristin encourages you to dream BIG when it comes to partnership, leaving you feeling inspired and full of hope. I'm experiencing sexual and sensual expansiveness in my whole being. Co-crafting this profile with Kristin was the most fun I've had in a long time!

- Lora

✨ Life changing. ✨ Those are the two best words to describe my coaching experience with Kristin, and I know it might seem like an overstatement (or too good to be true), but this woman is MAGICAL! In only three sessions she’s ignited my creativity, enhanced my self-love and self-acceptance, helped me understand my blocks (and transform them into helpful allies), and my romantic relationship has been reborn. I’ve done a lot of therapy and healing work over the years but hands-down this is the best experience I’ve ever had. She’s such a match for me, and I’m so grateful she’s here in Bend!

- Dr. Brianne Grogan

Frequently Asked Questions

Do you offer hands-on touch?
No. 
I do not participate in any erotic or sexual way with clients and do not offer hands-on touch. All client sessions are fully clothed, and I do not watch my clients engaging sexually with partners or in self pleasure. If you are looking for sexological bodywork, somatic stress release, scar tissue remediation, or a professional Dominatrix, I can refer you to professionals who include these services in their scope of practice.
Do you offer virtual coaching worldwide?
YES! I have clients all over the globe via video coaching for 8 years.
Does your expertise include Kink, BDSM, Ethical Non-Monogamy, & LGBTQIA+ coaching?
Yes, yes, and yes!! I support people in all relationship configurations and all orientations and genders, from vfully celibate and waiting for marriage virgins to long-term monogamous couples and have coaching expertise in ENM and open relating: from 'monogamish' to polyamory and relationship anarchy - I've got you covered!

I am an ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, and certified in Sexual Orientation, Identity, Gender & Expression through Embody Emerge.

I am also a proud member of the Kink & BDSM communities, with both lifestyle and professional expertise, and completing a 700-hour training in psychological Domination and am the founder of Devotional Kink.
Do you offer professional education or mentorship for licensed providers and practitioners?
Yes. I offer professional education, consultation, and mentorship for licensed and credentialed professionals such as therapists, psychologists, coaches, medical and allied health providers, and pelvic floor specialists. 

These sessions are educational and consultative in nature and focus on perspective expansion, somatic and relational frameworks, erotic literacy, and practitioner self-development. They are not therapy or clinical supervision. 

Some professions are able to treat this work as a business or professional development expense; please check with your licensing board and tax advisor for eligibility.
I am religious/spiritual/formerly religious. Will you coach me with respect to my views and beliefs?
Yes, absolutely. I tailor my coaching to honor your traditions and ethics. My clients have included Orthodox Jews, Latter-Day Saints, Christians, Catholics and Muslims, as well as ex-vangelicals, people healing from purity culture, in the midst of spiritual deconstruction, Shamans, Shamanistas and Pagans, as well as people with no spiritual or religious practices or background. I have a deep reverence and love for spiritual and sacred sexuality and adapt my coaching according to their personal beliefs and honor their traditions and practices (for example, syncing sessions and couples homeplay practices with my client's menstrual cycles).
Do you use licensed or proprietary systems in your work?
No. While I'm deeply informed by the psychological study of eroticism and desire, my work does not use proprietary systems or licensed methodologies. 

I focus on helping people understand the underlying dynamics of desire, while integrating modern somatic and trauma-aware:
  • Nervous system regulation
  • Relational choice, consent, and attunement
  • Spiritual and erotic integration over performance
  • Capacity, pacing, and embodied truth across seasons of life
Do you bill medical insurance?
No; coaching services are direct-pay professional services and are not billed through insurance and not eligible for FSA or HSA reimbursement. 
Can I work with you on other intimacy/dating/relationship topics?
Yes, absolutely. I have other coaching certifications, credentials and experience, and enjoy switching gears when it's the right fit! Please book a Discovery Call Consultation so I can understand the type of support you're looking for, and we see if I might be able to help. If I feel your needs are outside of my scope of practice, I will be happy to refer you to other expert professionals who may be a better fit.
Can I do this work if I am single, celibate, or have never had a partner?
Absolutely, YES! It is wonderful to discover who we are as erotic beings while single. You can do this work while being completely celibate or even if you have never had a sexual partner. Being erotically alive and connected has nothing to do with being in a relationship with a partner or lover. We believe each individual sets their own table for sexual satisfaction, whether single or in a partnership. You can have sexual satisfaction in solo practice. You can tune your erotic instrument and play yourself into a lather of ecstatic delights: you are your own lifetime lover. 

And if you are seeking to be in a relationship in the future, learning what turns you on will set you up to get your needs met when you do attract that amazing new lover. Mastering the skills of feeding each Erotic Blueprint Type™ will turn you into a Sexy Superhero. You can confidently enter into erotic play with a new lover(s), be certain to get your needs met and blow them away with your otherworldly ability to feed their deepest desires. In fact, the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ coaching program is some of the best preparation to attract your ideal lover and craft a relationship with irresistible magnetic attraction for a lifetime.
Do you work with individuals who are partnered but need to do this work solo?
Yes! I work with individuals, partnered people, and singles. When in partnership, both parties are not required to participate in coaching in order to make significant changes in a relationship; I do support people who are partnered who wish or need to do the work individually.

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